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Welcome to The Innovative Professional's (TIP's) Letter!
Sunday, March 13, 2005
Written & Published by Philip E. Humbert, PhD
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Table of Contents:

1. The One-Minute TIP
Welcome Notes
Skills for the 21st Century: Extreme Selfishness 
Quotes of the Week
Strictly Business:   Saying NO To Opportunity   
Resources and Tools for YOUR Success!
Humor:   Some of The Things I've Learned

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1. The One-Minute TIP

Demand selfishness of yourself and those around you. Not
everyone will like you, but they'll respect and trust and
admire you, and you'll achieve far more than if you lose
your SELF in the mistaken hope that wearing a mask will
make life "easier." Stand tall. Show us your true colors.
Let us know the real you!

2. Welcome Notes

Last week I mentioned that spring seems to have come early
to Oregon and noted my personal HURRAH! We're playing golf
and last Sunday, Mary and I took the day, drove to the
coast and had a wonderful time on the beach. With almost no
wind, warm temperatures and a blue sky, it was amazing!

My point is to remind myself of the good time we had
(recalling great days is a wonderful way to re-live them)
but also to remind you and myself to repeat the experience
whenever possible. Never miss a chance to have a great time
with someone you love! Come home from work early and go to
dinner. Buy flowers or rent a favorite movie, play cards or
go for a walk, but make memories with the people you love.
Life is short; make it last!

Along those lines, this week two couples signed up for my
World Class Life(tm) Conference in May. One couple is using
it as a romantic getaway to re-affirm their values and
their goals, while the other "couple" are two sisters using
the 3-day Conference to re-connect. What a smart thing to
do! When was the last time you attended a motivational,
goal-setting conference with your partner? (When was the
last time you took 3 days to focus on your future, with or
without your partner?)

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3:  Skills for the 21st Century: Extreme Selfishness 

Are you selfish enough to flourish in the 21st century? In
my opinion, most of us are not.

Obviously, I'm not talking about selfishness in the petty
ways we see in children or in immature tycoons grasping for
even more millions. I'm talking about being smart and
mature and clear about who you are and how you want to live
in the world. Here's one way of thinking about it - if you
aren't yourself, who are you going to be?

If you aren't "self-ish" enough, then you're merely playing
a role or trying to be someone you are not, and that's a
recipe for disaster. No one can successfully go through
life pretending to be someone they are not.

Here are some desirable traits of extremely selfish people:

1. They walk their talk. We used to hear more about
character and integrity than we do today. Selfish people
are described by phrases like, "what you see is what you
get" and "his/her word is their bond." Extremely selfish
people make very few promises and they always keep them.

2. They have clear boundaries. Selfish people know what
they stand for, and what they refuse to tolerate. Selfish
people are not afraid to say no to an inappropriate
request, or to block interruptions. Selfish people insist
on being treated with respect, and they treat others the
same way.

3. Selfish people are eager to learn. They know who they
are and they have no problem saying they don't know, or
that they were wrong. They learn from experience and are
open to suggestion. Because they know who they are and are
comfortable in their own skin, they relate well with
others, but only on equal footing and with mutual honesty.

4. Selfish people play many roles, but they never confuse
the role with who they are inside. Extremely selfish people
know when it is appropriate for them to be the leader, the
student, or to take some other role in an organization, but
they never confuse their role at the moment with who they
truly are.

5. Selfish people are strong and can be forceful. Their
feet are planted on the ground and they are rarely confused
about their priorities, their objectives or their values.
They know where they are going in life and they are clear
about the strategies they will use (and the ones they will
NOT use) to be successful.

6. Selfish people are confident and self-assured. Because
they know who they are and what they value, they have fewer
doubts. There is an attractive aura that surrounds
extremely selfish people and we admire them as they stride
confidently through life.

Modern life encourages us to be "people pleasers" even when
that means sacrificing our beliefs, our integrity or our
values. Too often we get so caught up in being a "team
player" that we forget who we are, and how we want to
live our lives.

Never "lose" your SELF! You are all you have!

This is your life and you are incomparable. The world is
counting on you to be your SELF! We need all of your
talents, all of your honesty and insight. The world needs
the one and only YOU and you cheat yourself and everyone
around you if you lose your SELF in the roles and masks of

Demand selfishness of yourself and those around you. Not
everyone will like you, but they'll respect and trust and
admire you, and you'll achieve far more than if you lose
your SELF in the mistaken hope that wearing a mask will
make life "easier." Stand tall. Show us your true colors.
Let us know the real you!

4. Quotes of the Week

"Honesty is the first chapter in the book of wisdom."
                                             -- Thomas Jefferson

"One person with a belief is equal to a force of ninety-
nine with only interests."
                                             -- John Stuart Mill

"Persistent people begin their success where others end in failure."
                                             -- Edward Eggleston

"The minute you settle for less than you deserve, you get
even less than you settled for."
                                             -- Maureen Dowd

5. Strictly Business:   Saying NO To Opportunity

High achievers say no to more opportunities than they
pursue. That may seem paradoxical, but it's consistent with
the observation that success comes from doing "one thing
and doing it well."

Over the years of coaching hundreds of extremely successful
people, I've noticed the following pattern. Failures (lets
call them what they are) are always looking for a "break."
They see a world with few opportunities and they are always
claiming that "luck" never came their way. They are always
casting about for the next trend or a "ground floor
opportunity." In short, they are always starting over, or
spreading themselves too thin, or chasing rainbows.

High achievers, on the other hand, see a world full of
thousands of opportunities, most of which they politely
decline. They know that the job they already have, the
business they are already building or the profession they
are developing is precisely where they REAL opportunities
already exist.

Let's face it. Peak performers are very attractive people
and they receive thousands of invitations. People pursue
them, asking for their endorsement or their participation
in the "next big thing" but in most cases, they do not have
the "spare time" or the energy for them. High achievers are
not easily distracted from their primary course in life, so
they walk away from more opportunities than they accept.

And so should you!

Do one thing and do it well. "Stay the course." Find the
fortune that already exists in your own back yard rather
than chasing the one that may (or may not) lie over the
horizon, out of sight and too often, out of reach. Finish
what you've started and make your fortune doing what you
already know.

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I'm told Bill Gates takes a two-week retreat on Hood Canal
four times a year. He knows the value of time to think, to
relax, to let his imagination run wild and gain
perspective. Bill Clinton made the Renaissance retreat in
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Imagine, putting yourself in a beautiful setting and
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I invite you to join us in Wisconsin at one of the most
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We focus on the keys to "the good life." We focus on the
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7. Humor:    Some of The Things I've Learned

There are lots of lists of things people learn in life,
but my friend Bob Armstrong recently sent this to me and
it moved me, made me smile and actually got me to stop and
think about what's truly important. I hope you find it
thought-provoking as well. Enjoy!

I've learned....
That life is like a roll of toilet paper. The closer it
gets to the end, the faster it goes.

I've learned....
That we should be glad God doesn't give us everything we ask for.

I've learned....
That money doesn't buy class.

I've learned....
That it's the small daily happenings that make life so

I've learned....
That under everyone's hard shell is someone who wants to be
appreciated and loved.

I've learned....
That the Lord didn't do it all in one day. What makes me
think I can?

I've learned....
That to ignore the facts does not change the facts.

I've learned....
That when you plan to get even with someone, you are only
letting that person continue to hurt you.

I've learned....
That the easiest way for me to grow as a person is to
surround myself with people smarter than I am.

I've learned....
That everyone you meet deserves to be greeted with a smile.

I've learned....
That there's nothing sweeter than sleeping with your babies
and feeling their breath on your cheeks.

I've learned....
That life is tough, but I'm tougher.

I've learned....
That opportunities are never lost; someone will take the
ones you miss.

I've learned....
That when you harbor bitterness, happiness will dock

I've learned....
That I should keep my words both soft and tender, because
tomorrow I may have to eat them.

I've learned....
That a smile is an inexpensive way to improve your looks.

I've learned....
That I can't choose how I feel, but I can choose what I do
about it.

I've learned....
That when your newly born child holds your little finger in
his little fist, you're hooked for life.

I've learned....
That everyone wants to live on top of the mountain, but all
the happiness and growth occur while you're climbing it.

I've learned....
That the less time I have to work with, the more things I
get done.


Be kind to yourself and to someone else, and have a
wonder-FULL week!

Philip E. Humbert, PhD,
Resources for Success!
President, The Philip E. Humbert Group, Inc.

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