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Welcome to TIPS for Extraordinary Living!
Sunday, August 22, 2010
Written & Published by Philip E. Humbert, PhD
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Table of Contents:

1. The One-Minute TIP
2. Welcome Notes
3. Winners Choose Optimism Over Realism
4. Quotes of the Week
5. Strictly Business: Networking for Fun and Profit
6. Resources and Tools for YOUR Success!
7. Humor: Wedding Bell Wisdom

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1. The One-Minute TIP

Try stuff, do stuff, learn stuff, keep moving forward!
Optimism, even foolish, unrealistic, exaggerated optimism is
the most fundamental, critical trait of life's happiest,
most successful people. It seems to work and I highly
recommend it.

2. Welcome Notes

Our Oak trees are drying out! On our morning walk, Tucker
and I pass several trees that already have yellow leaves on
them, and this week we had a couple days that were unusually
warm (a hundred degrees!) and we had rain. Most important,
and most troubling, it's dark when I get up in the morning!
How did that happen!??

The good news is that it also gets dark earlier in the
evening, so on clear nights Mary and I can sit on the deck,
watch the stars come out and even spot a couple satellites
going over. That's fun! The point is that summer has given
fair notice: it will soon depart. Plan accordingly. For
Americans, our Labor Day weekend is only two weeks away. Use
it well!

Life is precious and too short! We tend to focus on success
in terms of career, money, fame, power and the "big pieces."
But I think success includes living well, having fun, creating
memories and doing the things that make us happy. Remember
to leave room for some silliness, a touch of romance and a
bit of fun.

Finally, for the past couple of weeks I've talked about
openings for coaching clients and while my "slots" are now
filled, if you are ready to move forward quickly, achieve
more and better results, and finish the year strong, I hope
you'll contact me at . I'd love to
talk with you. Your emails have also expressed tremendous
interest in coaching groups and classes. So, I'll be
announcing some groups right after Labor Day. Watch for

And, of course, you can always start your own MasterMind
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3: Winners Choose Optimism Over Realism

What is the biggest, most important key to success in life?
Philosophers, coaches, teachers, preachers and consultants
have wondered about that since the dawn of time.
Fortunately, I think I have the answer!

I'm not claiming to have discovered it by myself. I'm not
sure I can even claim to fully understand how it works. But,
I do know what it is: Attitude!

Remember the old saw that "Your attitude determines your
altitude?" I'm convinced it's true.

I was reminded of it this week when I spent several hours
driving to some appointments. I ended up scanning radio
stations, listening to unhappy people of various
descriptions. Unemployment claims were up this week. The
government is spending too much, taxing too much, and
generally doing lots of things people do not like, while
failing to do things they would very much prefer. Even the
weather was too hot, except where it was too rainy.

Bottom line: There's a lot of unhappiness on the radio!

Clearly, this is a troubled world and there are lots of
problems out there. We can't deny that. But it's also true
that, "what we focus on, expands." And, "we become what we
think about most of the time."

For most people, optimism is in rather short supply. We are
in a recession, and recessions are bad. We are concerned
about world peace, terrorism, climate change, unemployment,
and buying all the stuff our kids need for school. On a
personal note, during that trip I learned my truck needs a
new "serpentine belt" that will cost over $300! (Some of us
remember when fan belts were $4.99 and you changed them
yourself on Saturday afternoon.) There's a world of trouble
out there!

The good news--and it is truly Good News--is that there has
never been more good news all around us. Most of us are
healthy and are likely to stay that way. We can communicate
with anyone, any place in the world, usually for free! We
can read great books, listen to audio programs, or interview
the most talented, successful people who ever lived! We have
more "stuff' and access to more wealth than any people in

Even in tough times, we are rich beyond measure! And yet the
news is almost uniformly bad, bloody and painful. We worry
all day long--at least some of us do. People are angry,
discouraged, and actively practicing their "victim" approach
to life. How sad is that??

High achievers refuse to live with negativity! Winners have
always looked for the good, emphasized hope, and found
opportunity where others see only problems.

Successful people reason that if money is tight, folks are
looking for bargains. Many of today's richest families got
that way because a couple generations ago, Grandpa (or
Grandma) made some very smart moves in the midst of the
Depression. Winners note that if there is less money, there
might be more time as a family. What if the family went on
more hikes, picnics or visited more art galleries this fall?

Optimism comes naturally and easily to only a few. Perhaps
they are "lucky" or simply wired differently, I don't know.
But for the majority of people, optimism is a learned skill,
a chosen approach to life. It's a conscious decision to see
"the glass half-full." It's a habit of "whistling while you
work" and giving cheerful compliments to everyone you meet.
It's something to be practiced (fake it if you have to),
until it becomes automatic.

There are lots of good reasons to be pessimistic, but what's
the point? Even if it is more "realistic," does it give you
any advantages? I prefer optimism. Even foolish,
unrealistic, exaggerated optimism. If I'm wrong, I may be
briefly disappointed but I figure my "incurable optimism"
will give me the momentum to keep on going, no matter what.

Optimism, trying stuff, doing stuff, learning stuff,
constantly moving forward is the most fundamental, critical
trait of life's happiest, most successful people. I highly
recommend it.

4. Quotes of the Week

ďHow we live our days is how we live our lives.Ē
-- Annie Dillard

"If you can DREAM it, you can DO it."
-- Walt Disney

"In each of us are places where we have never gone. Only by
pressing the limits do you ever find them."
-- Dr. Joyce Brothers

"Most of the shadows of this life are caused by standing on
one's own sunshine."
-- Ralph Waldo Emerson

5. Strictly Business: Networking for Fun and Profit

There's an old saying that "it's who you know that counts,"
and for better or worse, it's often true.

Yes, there is a cynical aspect to the phrase, referring to
favoritism that is unfortunate. More often, however, people
get the referral or the promotion precisely because (in a
positive sense) of "who they know." Knowing and liking
someone does make a difference.

When it comes to networking, however, I've noticed two
unfortunate patterns that are generally NOT helpful:

First is the person (to be honest, it's usually a male) who
views networking as some strange contest to see who can
trade the most business cards in the shortest period of
time. There's a frantic, phony energy that is a huge turn-
off. Their quick handshake, exaggerated smile and exchange
of business cards is usually a waste of time.

The second is the person who attends networking functions
but fails to connect in a meaningful way. Often they spend
the entire time chatting with a friend, and leave without
meeting anyone new, or making any lasting impressions.

Effective networking means connecting with people in an
honest, sincere way that says you would like to help them if
you can, and would appreciate the other person's support in

Get to know people. Call them up, go to lunch, and if
appropriate, certainly exchange business cards! But what
you're looking for is a relationship. Get to know a few
people well, rather than collecting dozens of cards from
strangers. Follow-up with a phone call to touch base. And
for goodness sake, if you can, be sure to send some business
to the other person. Nothing will grow your own referral
business like the gratitude of people who have benefited
from your genuine support.

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7. Humor: Wedding Bell Wisdom

Collections of kidsí wisdom about love and marriage have
been around for a long time and when my friend and
colleague, Paul Simpson sent me these, I thought they were
too cute to pass up. I share these in the hope youíll get a
nice chuckle from them:


You got to find somebody who likes the same stuff. Like, if
you like sports, she should like it that you like sports,
and she should keep the chips and dip coming.
-- Alan, age 10

No person really decides before they grow up who they're
going to marry. God decides it all way before, and you find
out later who you're stuck with.
-- Kristen, age 10


Twenty-three is the best age because you know the person
FOREVER by then.
-- Camille, age 10


You might have to guess, based on whether they seem to be
yelling at the same kids.
-- Derrick, age 8


Both don't want any more kids.
-- Lori, age 8


Dates are for having fun, and people should use them to get
to know each other. Even boys have something to say if you
listen long enough.
-- Lynnette, age 8 (isn't she a treasure)

On the first date, they just tell each other lies and that
usually gets them interested enough to go for a second date.
-- Martin, age 10


When they're rich.
-- Pam, age 7

The law says you have to be eighteen, so I wouldn't want to
mess with that.
-- Curt, age 7

The rule goes like this: If you kiss someone, then you
should marry them and have kids with them. It's the right
thing to do.
-- Howard, age 8


I don't know which is better, but I'll tell you one thing.
I'm never going to have sex with my wife. I don't want to be
all grossed out.
-- Theodore, age 8

It's better for girls to be single but not for boys. Boys
need someone to clean up after them.
-- Anita, age 9 (bless you child)

And the #1 Favorite is........

Tell your wife that she looks pretty, even if she looks like
a truck.
-- Ricky, age 10


Be kind to yourself and to someone else, and have a
wonder-FULL week!

Philip E. Humbert, PhD,
Resources for Success!(tm)
President, The Philip E. Humbert Group, Inc.

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